Self Confidence Secrets: How To Overcome Anxiety and Low Self Esteem with NLP by Dan Johnston Page A
Authors: Dan Johnston
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roots of my behaviour. Life made more sense. My results improved. After applying Human Needs Psychology to my life I had less stress and anxiety. I had more fun, excitement and satisfaction. I’m going to share with you everything I’ve learnt over the past four years. In the process you will gain a new understanding of yourself and the ability to radically transform your life if you choose to apply this knowledge.
Let’s get started.
Human Needs Psychology tells us that all people are motivated by six needs. These six needs are the food, water and air for our mind and soul. Of these six needs, the first four of MUST be met in order for us to mentally survive and the last two are met in order to thrive. The last two needs are the equivalent of self-actualization on Maslow’s needs hierarchy. All human behaviour can be traced to an attempt at meeting these needs. This drive to meet our needs is part of our nervous system and found universally around the world. Whether positive, negative or neutral people will always find a way to meet their needs.
When we really look at someone’s behaviour we find that usually they will favour two needs strongly over the rest. Their deeper desire to meet their two primary needs has a significant impact on how their life plays out.
We will refer to a person’s two strongest needs as their “driving needs”. These driving needs have such a large effect on someone’s life you often can accurately guess someone’s two driving needs from a couple paragraph biography. A government or union worker likely has different driving needs than an actor or artist. An entrepreneur will have very different needs than the managers he works so closely with.
As you read about the six needs ask yourself:
Which stand out for me?
Which two are driving forces in my life?
Next Level Confidence Workbook: If you want to take things to the next level then download the free “Next Level Confidence” Workbook by visiting www.thedanjohnston.com/moreconfidence/ . Once you download the free pdf print it out and use it as a journal to record your answers as you go through this book.
So let’s dive right into these six needs. The first need relates quite well to Maslow’s lower needs for safety. Our first need is certainty. In order to operate normally we need a sense of consistency, certainty, or stability in our lives. If you think about this practically it makes total sense. If you do not know where you are sleeping or where your next meal is coming from it is nearly impossible to focus or think at higher levels. You cannot contemplate your life’s purpose if your stomach is rumbling. This is why a fight with a loved one or landlord can send shockwaves through our entire lives and often leave us unable to work until the issue is resolved.
So what are some situations where we fail to meet our need for certainty?
One of the most devastating traumas for a person in today’s economy is a sudden job loss. With huge companies going under, and downsizing becoming a regular item on the nightly news, millions of people have found their futures changed without warning. Being fired or laid off is traumatizing for many reasons. One of these is the sudden loss of certainty. One day you’re certain of your future. You plan to come into work the next day, the next month, the next year. You’ve planned your retirement date and have figured out how you’ll spend your pension. Perhaps you had your sights set on a promotion down the road. Suddenly all this certainty is stripped away and replaced with complete uncertainty. What do I do tomorrow? How will I pay the bills? Will I be able to retire? For people who choose to work a consistent career job certainty tends to be a driving need. This is one reason why a job loss can be so devastating.
Have you ever witnessed a person go completely bananas after hearing about a disaster or accident in a country where a family member is visiting or living? Perhaps
Let’s get started.
Human Needs Psychology tells us that all people are motivated by six needs. These six needs are the food, water and air for our mind and soul. Of these six needs, the first four of MUST be met in order for us to mentally survive and the last two are met in order to thrive. The last two needs are the equivalent of self-actualization on Maslow’s needs hierarchy. All human behaviour can be traced to an attempt at meeting these needs. This drive to meet our needs is part of our nervous system and found universally around the world. Whether positive, negative or neutral people will always find a way to meet their needs.
When we really look at someone’s behaviour we find that usually they will favour two needs strongly over the rest. Their deeper desire to meet their two primary needs has a significant impact on how their life plays out.
We will refer to a person’s two strongest needs as their “driving needs”. These driving needs have such a large effect on someone’s life you often can accurately guess someone’s two driving needs from a couple paragraph biography. A government or union worker likely has different driving needs than an actor or artist. An entrepreneur will have very different needs than the managers he works so closely with.
As you read about the six needs ask yourself:
Which stand out for me?
Which two are driving forces in my life?
Next Level Confidence Workbook: If you want to take things to the next level then download the free “Next Level Confidence” Workbook by visiting www.thedanjohnston.com/moreconfidence/ . Once you download the free pdf print it out and use it as a journal to record your answers as you go through this book.
So let’s dive right into these six needs. The first need relates quite well to Maslow’s lower needs for safety. Our first need is certainty. In order to operate normally we need a sense of consistency, certainty, or stability in our lives. If you think about this practically it makes total sense. If you do not know where you are sleeping or where your next meal is coming from it is nearly impossible to focus or think at higher levels. You cannot contemplate your life’s purpose if your stomach is rumbling. This is why a fight with a loved one or landlord can send shockwaves through our entire lives and often leave us unable to work until the issue is resolved.
So what are some situations where we fail to meet our need for certainty?
One of the most devastating traumas for a person in today’s economy is a sudden job loss. With huge companies going under, and downsizing becoming a regular item on the nightly news, millions of people have found their futures changed without warning. Being fired or laid off is traumatizing for many reasons. One of these is the sudden loss of certainty. One day you’re certain of your future. You plan to come into work the next day, the next month, the next year. You’ve planned your retirement date and have figured out how you’ll spend your pension. Perhaps you had your sights set on a promotion down the road. Suddenly all this certainty is stripped away and replaced with complete uncertainty. What do I do tomorrow? How will I pay the bills? Will I be able to retire? For people who choose to work a consistent career job certainty tends to be a driving need. This is one reason why a job loss can be so devastating.
Have you ever witnessed a person go completely bananas after hearing about a disaster or accident in a country where a family member is visiting or living? Perhaps
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