that provides you with better access to her vulva than 69’ing but significantly hinders the use of your hands and fingers—a trade-off without much real gain. Sitting on your face (really kneeling around your face) forces her into an upright position and places undue stress on her back and legs. In this position, it’s highly unlikely she’ll get very far in the process of sexual response; however, it can prove erotically stimulating by providing her with a sense of dominance, and might be good for a bit of fun.
Up Against the Wall
In Up Against the Wall she literally stands against a wall while you kneel down before her. Although it’s unlikely that she’ll reach orgasm from this position, with a wall to provide support it’s easier to lead her through several stages of arousal. Up Against the Wall has all the rough passion of a “quickie,” but without the male ejaculation that often accompanies the genital version of this position.
All three of these positions—69’ing, SOMF, and Up Against the Wall—are useful in that they provide erotic stimulation and often heighten the drama of the moment. In fact, with a little help from your imagination, there’s no limit to the number of creative positions that can be devised and put to the test—one book I came across actually recommends going down on a woman while she stands on her head with her legs wrapped around your neck. Use these positions during foreplay to accelerate the process of arousal into coreplay, but don’t mistake them for the ones that enable the application of serious clitoral stimulation to the point of no return.
So much for the wrong way…
Now the Right Way
Her Body
• She should start flat on her back, legs spread comfortably apart, but not too far (six to nine inches at most) and a bit bent at the knee. As a rule, her legs should always be closer together than farther apart, as she needs the full command of her pelvic muscles. She should be completely at ease and relaxed: able to focus on the pleasure she’s receiving without any distraction—physical or mental.
• Pay attention to the arch of her back. Once again, we get the idea from porn that when a woman is turned on shenaturally arches her back upward, throws back her head, and points her breasts and neck up and out. This position, while titillating, is what the famous sexologist Wilhelm Reich referred to as the “hysterical arch.” Not only is it highly unnatural, but the position also cuts off blood flow to the pelvic area, hampers breathing, and inhibits the process of sexual response. When a woman is aroused and comfortable, her back will find itself flat, without an arch, and her genitals will be tilted slightly up toward your mouth, rather than driving downward—in short, the opposite of what we see in porn. To help her achieve this naturally comfortable position, prop a pillow or two behind her neck and shoulders.
• A pillow propped under her butt will help with blood flow to the pelvic region, as well as provide you with better access to her genitalia, making it easier for you to connect “lips” and alleviate stress to your neck.
Your Body
It’s important that you have enough space to stretch out and be comfortable—so you’ll probably have to push her up toward the head of the bed. (If you’re both on the floor—also a great place for a session of cunnilingus in that the floor provides a solid flat surface—just make sure there’s some sort of cushioning beneath her, be it a soft rug or plush quilt.)
• Place a pillow beneath your forearms and get your “working hands” as comfortable and close as possible to her vulva.
• Position yourself vertically from her vagina. Other than the narrow flaring of her legs, your bodies, taken together, should form a straight line.
• All in all, you should feel perfectly at ease adopting a wide range of motions: licking for long periods of time, slidingyour hands underneath her butt, lifting
Up Against the Wall
In Up Against the Wall she literally stands against a wall while you kneel down before her. Although it’s unlikely that she’ll reach orgasm from this position, with a wall to provide support it’s easier to lead her through several stages of arousal. Up Against the Wall has all the rough passion of a “quickie,” but without the male ejaculation that often accompanies the genital version of this position.
All three of these positions—69’ing, SOMF, and Up Against the Wall—are useful in that they provide erotic stimulation and often heighten the drama of the moment. In fact, with a little help from your imagination, there’s no limit to the number of creative positions that can be devised and put to the test—one book I came across actually recommends going down on a woman while she stands on her head with her legs wrapped around your neck. Use these positions during foreplay to accelerate the process of arousal into coreplay, but don’t mistake them for the ones that enable the application of serious clitoral stimulation to the point of no return.
So much for the wrong way…
Now the Right Way
Her Body
• She should start flat on her back, legs spread comfortably apart, but not too far (six to nine inches at most) and a bit bent at the knee. As a rule, her legs should always be closer together than farther apart, as she needs the full command of her pelvic muscles. She should be completely at ease and relaxed: able to focus on the pleasure she’s receiving without any distraction—physical or mental.
• Pay attention to the arch of her back. Once again, we get the idea from porn that when a woman is turned on shenaturally arches her back upward, throws back her head, and points her breasts and neck up and out. This position, while titillating, is what the famous sexologist Wilhelm Reich referred to as the “hysterical arch.” Not only is it highly unnatural, but the position also cuts off blood flow to the pelvic area, hampers breathing, and inhibits the process of sexual response. When a woman is aroused and comfortable, her back will find itself flat, without an arch, and her genitals will be tilted slightly up toward your mouth, rather than driving downward—in short, the opposite of what we see in porn. To help her achieve this naturally comfortable position, prop a pillow or two behind her neck and shoulders.
• A pillow propped under her butt will help with blood flow to the pelvic region, as well as provide you with better access to her genitalia, making it easier for you to connect “lips” and alleviate stress to your neck.
Your Body
It’s important that you have enough space to stretch out and be comfortable—so you’ll probably have to push her up toward the head of the bed. (If you’re both on the floor—also a great place for a session of cunnilingus in that the floor provides a solid flat surface—just make sure there’s some sort of cushioning beneath her, be it a soft rug or plush quilt.)
• Place a pillow beneath your forearms and get your “working hands” as comfortable and close as possible to her vulva.
• Position yourself vertically from her vagina. Other than the narrow flaring of her legs, your bodies, taken together, should form a straight line.
• All in all, you should feel perfectly at ease adopting a wide range of motions: licking for long periods of time, slidingyour hands underneath her butt, lifting
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