that men and women share this predilection for cinematic stimulation; on the other hand, the vast majority of porn films are male-oriented. For a change of pace, check out films specifically designed to appeal to women by directors such as Candida Royalle, a former adult film star who ventured out on her own to produce and direct under the banner Femme Productions. Not surprisingly, these films rely more heavily on elements such as plot and character, feature lots of foreplay, and are much more illuminating about the sorts of sexual activitiesthat women actually enjoy. And unlike male-oriented films, the sex is actually integrated into the story line. Shakespeare would surely have appreciated these female-oriented dramas more than their male-oriented counterparts, in that at least they make an effort to “suit the action to the word and word to action” while “holding a mirror up to nature.”
Style: Don’t be a show-off. As written in Elements of Style, “The beginner should approach style warily, realizing that it is an expression of self, and should turn resolutely away from all devices that are popularly believed to indicate style—all mannerisms, tricks, adornments. The approach to style is by way of plainness, simplicity, orderliness, sincerity.”
Holds true for experts as well.
Ties: The kind that bind. Restraining a lover during sexual activity is a popular fantasy, and one that, unlike some others, is easily realized, and erotically rewarding. When approached safely as a lighthearted, playful activity, restraint is a fun, guilt-free way of acting out dominance roles and expressing healthy sexual aggression. It stimulates her body by allowing her to flex her muscles more intensely than when unrestrained; it also stimulates her mind by allowing her to surrender to pleasure and act out in ways that might normally make her feel awkward or shy. It also encourages you to take your time and lavish her with attention as she submits to your teasing. From constraint comes creativity. If you’re new to this topic, err on the side of caution and peruse the pointers in the Appendix before proceeding.
Time: Take lots of it. As Ovid wrote, “Love’s climax should never be rushed I say / But worked up slowly, lingering all the way.”
Introducing Coreplay
“Proper words in their proper place make the true definition of a style.”
—Jonathan Swift
A LTHOUGH IT’S IMPERATIVE that the play process unfold seamlessly from beginning to end, without interruption, it is nonetheless useful, in discussion, to break the process down into substages, especially as they help to illuminate coreplay—the substantive phase in which sexual tension builds, culminates and then releases itself through the female orgasm.
Therefore, we will discuss coreplay in terms of six distinct stages that are easy to understand:
• Stage 1: in which we transition from foreplay to coreplay with the application of the first clitoral kiss
• Stage 2: in which we establish rhythm and acclimate the clitoris to the persistent attentions of the tongue
• Stage 3: in which we continue to build tension by focusingmore of our energies on the clitoral head, as well as introducing appropriate manual stimulation
• Stage 4: in which we hypercharge the process of sexual response and escalate her level of arousal by internally stimulating the “clitoral cluster” in combination with the clitoral head
• Stage 5: preorgasm, in which we maintain the optimum balance of rhythm and pressure as she approaches orgasm
• Stage 6: Orgasm, in which we maximize the number of pelvic contractions and help her to realize the full potential of her climax
In abbreviated terms, think of these stages as a straightforward process that encompasses: the first kiss; establishing rhythm; building tension; escalating the action; preorgasm and orgasm.
Going forward, we will
Style: Don’t be a show-off. As written in Elements of Style, “The beginner should approach style warily, realizing that it is an expression of self, and should turn resolutely away from all devices that are popularly believed to indicate style—all mannerisms, tricks, adornments. The approach to style is by way of plainness, simplicity, orderliness, sincerity.”
Holds true for experts as well.
Ties: The kind that bind. Restraining a lover during sexual activity is a popular fantasy, and one that, unlike some others, is easily realized, and erotically rewarding. When approached safely as a lighthearted, playful activity, restraint is a fun, guilt-free way of acting out dominance roles and expressing healthy sexual aggression. It stimulates her body by allowing her to flex her muscles more intensely than when unrestrained; it also stimulates her mind by allowing her to surrender to pleasure and act out in ways that might normally make her feel awkward or shy. It also encourages you to take your time and lavish her with attention as she submits to your teasing. From constraint comes creativity. If you’re new to this topic, err on the side of caution and peruse the pointers in the Appendix before proceeding.
Time: Take lots of it. As Ovid wrote, “Love’s climax should never be rushed I say / But worked up slowly, lingering all the way.”
Introducing Coreplay
“Proper words in their proper place make the true definition of a style.”
—Jonathan Swift
A LTHOUGH IT’S IMPERATIVE that the play process unfold seamlessly from beginning to end, without interruption, it is nonetheless useful, in discussion, to break the process down into substages, especially as they help to illuminate coreplay—the substantive phase in which sexual tension builds, culminates and then releases itself through the female orgasm.
Therefore, we will discuss coreplay in terms of six distinct stages that are easy to understand:
• Stage 1: in which we transition from foreplay to coreplay with the application of the first clitoral kiss
• Stage 2: in which we establish rhythm and acclimate the clitoris to the persistent attentions of the tongue
• Stage 3: in which we continue to build tension by focusingmore of our energies on the clitoral head, as well as introducing appropriate manual stimulation
• Stage 4: in which we hypercharge the process of sexual response and escalate her level of arousal by internally stimulating the “clitoral cluster” in combination with the clitoral head
• Stage 5: preorgasm, in which we maintain the optimum balance of rhythm and pressure as she approaches orgasm
• Stage 6: Orgasm, in which we maximize the number of pelvic contractions and help her to realize the full potential of her climax
In abbreviated terms, think of these stages as a straightforward process that encompasses: the first kiss; establishing rhythm; building tension; escalating the action; preorgasm and orgasm.
Going forward, we will
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