ben wa balls, or any other kind of balls—in your rectum. Besides irritating your rectal tissue, they can also become irretrievable without a speedy trip to the emergency room. Only beads that are on a string or anal bead toys are safe for anal play. You’ve already played with anal beads, and you’re right, most people find the knots of the nylon or cotton rope pretty uncomfortable. I have several suggestions for scenes that may appeal to you. If you want to be surprised, now is the time to stop reading and hand the book over to your husband. Several sex toy manufacturers sell toys that are a continuous series of beads, but the toy is all one piece (no string, no knots); some have several beads of the same size, while others have graduated beads that get larger and larger. Your husband can insert the first bead, send you off to retrieve rose #1, then slide the second bead inside, and so on. It creates a similar effect to the marbles with a toy that’s completely safe. Or, if the goal is to make it increasingly difficult to keep the object inside your ass as you retrieve the roses, he can begin with a silicone butt plug, and with each new round, replace it with a plug made of a heavier material, moving from clear acrylic to glass to marble to stainless steel. I’ve used all of these high-end toys, and can tell you that when you stand up with a steel butt plug in your ass, it feels like a barbell that’s fighting gravity! A similar effect can be achieved with only one butt plug and a series of small weights usually used for cock and ball play or genitorture. Find a way to attach the weights to the base of the plug (I suggest a small piece of string around the rounded base); you can keep increasing the amount of weight each time a rose is retrieved. Use the story in the book as inspiration, but then be creative and create a scene that’s clever, cruel, or whatever works for you. Most important, make it safe.
Because they can be poorly made and difficult to clean, anal beads are not always the safest toy. A better bet for bead lovers is a toy based on the bead concept, made without string, as one continuous piece. These are much easier to clean (specific cleaning tips are in the Sex Toy Materials section at the end of this chapter) and are generally a lot more
comfortable. Bead toys can be made of jelly, rubber, or silicone and have anywhere from five to ten beads. In some toys, the beads are all the same size—from marble-size to the size of golf balls or even bigger—and in others, they graduate in size. For first timers, I recommend you pick small beads, and gradually work your way up to larger sizes if you discover you like them. Always choose a bead toy with a ring or base on the end of it.
For some people, the moment when the sphincter muscles relax and allow for that first pleasurable penetration is incredibly hot. Nina Hartley calls it “the pop,” although, have no fear, there’s no actual popping sound. For these folks, anal beads are perfect, since they can experience that initial penetration sensation over and over as the anus opens to accommodate the bead, then closes around it, then opens for the next bead, and so on. Insert one well-lubed bead at a time, giving the ass a chance to adjust to and relish the sensation of expanding then contracting around the ball. As the receptive partner, if you’ve been practicing your Kegel exercises, you will be more aware of these contractions and able to control them voluntarily. Many people like to insert the beads while having their genitals stimulated. Once they are all in (or as many are in as you want), you can (slowly!) pull the entire string of beads out, creating an entirely different, but equally intense, sensation. Some folks like this grand exit to happen when they feel close to orgasm, in order to push them over the edge; others like to wait until they are coming to intensify the climax. You can also keep them in until after you’ve come. Remember to
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